Also develop self-confidence, you are a beautiful, worthy person- a child of God. I have a "problem" i always get stressed in exams so i sometimes read questions in the wrong way, which leads to me getting low grades even though im good in that subject. I've tried reaching out to people for help. but of course.. i got a big X. but it didnt matter to me because i know that im good in that subject. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on February 02, 2018: Your parents shouldn't ground you but get you academic assistance until your grade improves. Which is true because my sister is a great person who is becoming a doctor.Which sounds good for parents to brag about. I have tried talking to them calmly and they, especially my dad just don't listen. He thought I was just a real close friend of the family! You and your mother need joint counseling. Your performance in school is measured in an identifiable way (your grades) and see what needs to be improved or what you are strong at. I'm so depressed right now. You are a worthwhile, beautiful person. After all this was a reflection on him as a male ! This is wrong as each child is unique. Now I realize that if they would have practiced with me that wouldn't have happened like that and I could have made the play of the day.. and been a champ carried on the teams shoulders Ahh. Her love and support balance out the suffocating negativity coming from my father & help me believe in myself . But why, would I ever intentally harm anyone or anything? At-home entertainment ideas for women about to give birth, Educate your teenager about internet safety, Top ten questions for your doctor or midwife, Prenatal care - talking to your OB about pregnancy symptoms. Not only will your parents be pleased, but youll feel good about it too. i got to grow up way faster that anyone, i didn't really experience being a child and as for putting people over family, for the longest of time I've felt like i didn't have a family. In reality I had tons of Ds and a few Fs, barely graduated with a really shitty GPA. But for me I can't keep up with that and my average is an 85% which is not the best. Parents think that emphasising the importance of academics will motivate their children to work hard. I know where I've come from, what I've endured and experienced, and I've let others know about my life experience too; so if I go, people at least will know. It took me until my mother died to experience detachment and my awakening journey, Too many traumas due to lack of healthy parental guidance and dysfunctional interaction and minimum tlc but I focus on what I can do now and creativity is my saviour, its like i don't know my mom anymore every little thing i do comes with some type of backlash, and I'm always being compared to someone and i think to my self "but I'm not them and they are not your child". Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on August 07, 2018: Don't listen to your mother. Many parents refuse to acknowledge this. You should either discuss this matter w/a trusted relative. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on January 25, 2018: Follow YOUR dreams, your mother is a soul destroying person. I dont get complimented on my looks as much in my family or life as my sister and everyone else in my family does. Everything I wear, the way I look (hereditary), my choice of friends, my interests and hobbies are just wrong according to her and deserving of condemnation. I experience a few highs but many low points in life. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 20, 2018: Are you the oldest of a large/very large family? I 've enjoyed this reading, nos I'am 60 years old, I lived difficult times when I was a child, fue this, I could not to be married, now I feel that need father's Love, I feel better when older men give me his friendchip. Im sick and tired. Doing this will allow the child to develop competence and a positive sense of self. Your mental health, however, is more opaque. Also, disassociate from your family. i even developed anger issues and the second eldest also did too. Help the child develop a winning attitude and approach to goal setting and see what happens. Family vote once upon a Time my dad's vote was to be counted as 3pts mom2ots bros1pt me,? Actually, its all hate. They want to give you a better future than they have. When I was growing up I never hung out with my dad. Take care~, About 80% kids face these problems in India. Never picking the right man? I strongly agree with all except the last one. Those whose characteristics are different from the parents' are viewed as a threat to the familial, social order. scars on my Back ! They're not there to make your life worse. Fortunately I have a wonderful mother (who is also criticized by my dad all the time). My meds have stabilized my mood. To order Carol's newest book,Speed of Life, clickhere. AND when i say parents i mean my daf and my grandma bc i live with them And telling them they are stupid and him telling to our face our mother is stupid and barely graduated with cs and Ds and what a cold fish she was a in bed with him ! (i'm the eldest) i also remember trying to open up to my mother but that didn't end well either. Answer: Your family situation is toxic. But I've started going to the gym and learning about how to look after your body with real foods. I now only see her so that I don't get cut from her will, but I'm emotionally divorced from her. At the end of the day I'll just say I never really loved her but I do. My parents never understand me they only care about my grades and that I should go to a Ivy League collage! My heart rips itself apart going through the thought. It is FREE! When she found out of course, she sent me to a therapist who didnt even help. Sick of It. Putting money into savings for acting school or classes. Help! Parents Parents value grades over kindness, kids say in new study When your kid gets straight As, it's cause for a celebratory dinner out. Well, some individuals have goals and aspirations which are dramatically different and rare. He should have taken this up with his wife! Childhood is a time to freely explore, try on different personas, and fall on your face. head wounds ! that "I'm grown up now and can start being your own person." I feel much better letting some of my problems out OvO. I know they care about my education, but they hurt my feelings. In these parents' purview, their children are incapable of doing anything for themselves. If the child believes that they are stupid because they are a C student, they will become a low achiever throughout life, no matter what their human potential is. So she never gave it to me. If that doesn't pan out, seek a counselor's help. Some apply corrective or disciplinary methods that can verge on emotional or verbal abuse which damage their children's self-esteem. My mother's anxiety about my having a family by now, bled the life out of what could have been exciting and formative 20s. Don't accidentally tear down your children's confidence. Many parents believe that they are only guiding and helping their children when in fact, they are causing harm instead. My perspective at least. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on August 15, 2018: So.let's start all things first by that my mother and father crushed when i was like 4.Then my mother moved to another country.I left with my father. Each day, I'm taking small steps in battling my own emotions and to constantly remind myself to live life to the fullest. i cant stand my parents anymore please help me im going crazy, Somewhat the opposite to Andrew but ultimately similar. Whenever I try to talk to them about how I feel, they yell at me. They often have insanely unrealistic expectations that their offspring must be as perfect and blemish-free as possible. They want their children to succeed in life and in their vision, only good grades lead to a successful life. Dear Carol, I'm now 62. Never have I felt that my happiness was any of their concern. Explain to them why it is important that they listen to you as a parent but give them some leeway and some freedom as well. Go here to submit questions to Carol about every sticky sitch life throws at you. Tell them you want to hear when theyre proud, not just when theyre disappointed. This content is accurate and true to the best of the authors knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional. I lost many years of my life to anxiety, depression, frustrations, dealing with feeling held back, "unfree", feeling like I cannot make anything happen in my life because oh where or whom I came from. I hesitate to feel proud of myself ever because in scared that my parents won't look at it to be proud of. Many parents are threatened and nonplussed if their children's abilities and characteristics are different from their own. Seek counselling so you can heal. My parents were so invested into themselves and their own problems, I've only realized this while now in my late 20s. Your parents & brothers are toxic-GET AWAY FROM THEM! I bombed the second time around, nerves. Second therapist referred me to the psychologist. No it wasn't 0, it was worth 1/2pt! There are parents who do not believe in praising because they believe that it softens and spoils kids and will make them conceited and think too highly of themselves. I just want to be a truck driver, which I now am and I love it. Discuss her concerns w/her. I am probably doing everything possible to get better (at my expense - if it would do any good to sue my parents I would). Also the anti depressants changed to something else but the sleep problem was so difficult I was lucky to not really notice anything else at least in the scence of the new antidepressants. I cant wait until I get to leave but Ive still got to wait another 5 years. quick info, i am autistic and i cannot work under pressure. I'm 13 and 6'2", makes me feel way too self conscious, Press J to jump to the feed. It's a shame stupidity isn't painful. Disassociate from such toxic parents. Kids are sadistic with one another. Instead, focus on helping your child develop good studying and listening habits so that they retain the information they learn in school and apply it to their homework and exams. now i just have depression wherever i go. They should be encouraged. Im 16 and i have an incredibly stressful life 6am - 10 or 12pm everyday. Emotional & Mental Health Emotional & Stress Management Relationship, Friendship & Family problems My parents never understand me! My mother's parenting, somewhat pushy and demanding, came from the knowledge that life could be harsh and a well intentioned desire for her children to be tough and prepared for anything. There is no need to take a negative tone when speaking to a child about the mistakes they have made. Unless your child is incapacitated (heaven forbid), this is not okay. So it doesnt really even out when my parents point out my flaws. Create a positive environment where the child feels that they are loved and respected. Dad is happy to just follow on a stronger mom simply because it absolves him of the responsibility. Say so. I wasn't able to have a childhood after, I believe i had a third sibling? She is emotionally abusing you & you don't have to take this. My parents & brothers even told me I deserved to be raped & that me getting raped was 'my fault'. These people are firm believers that their offspring should be carbon copies of them with similar characteristics, interests, and goals. "He just kept saying over and over: 'In our family, that's not acceptable.' I didn't know what to say to him. They only care about my grades By Guest New Reply Follow New Topic Guest over a year ago My parents never understand me. WHat should I do? My mother was given away by her parents as an infant, then taken back at ten years of age when she was old enough to work and be considered useful. I'd keep trying until I die. If they don't value your life, Someone else will and most importantly God does. And with the rules I don't mind following the rules no matter how stupid I think they are but they NEVER let me ask why. Didn't see them for long, found a better job elsewhere. the only way I can get an 90% is if I get 100% on the exam and science is my worst subject but "my sister did IB so I should be able to succeed in academic because I am naturally smarter than her but she works harder". Did you get a good grade they forgot to praise? You shouldn't have to endure such abuse from your mother & sister. Children of overprotective parents don't develop the skills to succeed in life. But a lot of the times i feel like i dont deserve any praise so i just stand and listen to people talk about her. Question: I think my parents wanted a perfect child instead they got me. My mom is not as bad as my dad. On the other hand, children who saw their parents as putting more emphasis on achievements over being kind to others were more likely to experience negative outcomes, such as depression, anxiety, lower self-esteem, behavior problems, criticism from parents, learning problemsand lower grades. Answer: Your father would be classified as an overprotective parent. To pigeonhole anyone's intellectual ability based entirely upon their GPA often creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. Im 10 and all of this has happend to me. I've dreamed of being a country singer-songwriter my entire life but my mom has crushed my dreams at every turn. With my dad everything always has to be his choice and both of them push me so hard that sometimes I cry. What should I do? But it's my calling in life and I'm very good at it. I feel like if I'm not serving someone, my life has no purpose. The hazing at Scouts, Cadets from other kids, bizarre and inhumane. Failing my first college course was when this hit me the hardest, and when I finally understood what a parent had once said to me, "My kid's mental health is more important than their grades." Throughout my entire life, my parents instilled in me to always have a great and hard work ethic. How should I react here? Every time I expressed an opinion I was ridiculed by the whole family. Conformity is a necessary thing in certain cases but parents should work on helping their child develop their unique talents while respecting the norms of society. I've had my body taken advantage of multiple times by multiple people. Direct a movie and we'll give you an iconic film to binge this weekend. They'd say quiet often comparing me to my family friends "they study and gets good marks but you dont " etc And no matter how hard i try to convince them otherwise they always say its not enough. I have never even had a girlfriend not that I'm ugly but timid I lack social skills to approach a lady. I'm just frustrated. (I am also more fair skinned than anyone in the family but I look just like my dad who is the one I get my fairness from, mind you. It important for me to get a good education so incan go to. 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Every school shooting has a reason why, and if you actually knew everything rather than what little you are told, you would probably at least understand why it happens. What should I do to improve my relationship with my mother? I also have PTSD if that is no surprise. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on August 03, 2018: Please seek counselling. and if you ask me.. i dont care as much about grades, for me.. if i know that im good in that specific subject but i still get low grades it doesnt really matter to me. That was an example of parental alien affection .., learned this in divorce law how parents pitnchildren against parents.. thats wrong and cruel .. Really thankful for it, I've been trying to be super human. Things got progressively worse as years went by and I got siblings. Parents often believe that if they extol the positive characteristics of siblings and other children to their so-called errant child, their own child will improve. Are good grades more important than being nice? she shuts out my emotions. It didn't work - I am in my 40s and she still tells me I am too weak and a disappointment - but it was her way of showing us love and, besides it is a fair criticism so I don't take offence. They still came in first, they didn't need me anyways. Once she told me you will never be a boy so stop pretending to be one. Such parents demoralize their children in one way or another. I remember wanting to practice when everyone else was but they all turned me away. kindergarten girlfriends. One day I got a line drive for my glove as I was daydreaming out there but I moved my hand to miss because I thought it was going to hurt my hand. "She's rude, and who does she think she is thinking she can talk back to us like that. Answer: No, but I suggest that you obtain psychiatric counselling and disassociate yourself from your father. Felt aweful. Build up rather than tear down is a good strategy to employ. Correction and discipline are meant to improve and enhance a child's sense of self and help a child become self-disciplined, self-motivated, and self-determined. And this country has become a country of snowflake children. Some parents want their children to be physically/emotionally flawless. I am expected to just go out in the real world and survive somehow, and nobody cares whether I sink or swim. I've never had money so I've never been able to take care of myself. Like there was really no real reason to do anything. However, they are doing irreparable damage and making their kids quite dependent and indecisive regarding the simplest life choices. From my perspective, I hate children. She constantly tells me I'll probably never make it in the music business and to focus on my office job. If you are old enough, implement ways to move away from your father. These parents maintain that they should never have to praise their offspring for things such as having good behavior, doing chores without being asked, or earning good grades. I want the ability to defend myself from perverts. Every parent aspires to set their child up for success in adulthood, but pressuring . Parents care more about their child's grades than the child itself. Published: 12:19 EST, 25 June 2014 | Updated: 16:39 . Never realized they were so dysfunctional till recently. Parents should strive to take their own egos out of the equation and instead focus on what the child needs. Anxiety In Teenagers: What Should Teens And Parents Know? that saounds toxic. Her mother never gave that to her. I just had sex for the first time in over 2 years. Whenever I try to talk to them about how I feel, they yell at me. I never had much mentors in my life, my parents weren't much of the type to look up to. Joint counseling will get issues out in the open. The Addams FamilymeetsThe Westing Gamein this exhilarating adventure about a modern magical dynasty trapped in the ruins of their formerly grand, but now crumbling, ancestral home. Everyone in my family are all doctors and engineers. It is hard to excel in school when you feel pressure on all sides. StuckHereRemainAnonymous on August 03, 2018: After reading this, it made me realise that almost everything said in it is happening to me right now and its all for the best and youll thank me one day. One day, your parents won't be there and you wish they were. Don't stay w/toxic family members who don't respect/love you. I just want to let you know "anonymous" and "no account please" I think you are both really special and strong! You have went through so much psychological angst. What should I do? They care about your grades because they want a good future for you. I knew that my mam wasnt the best but I think I really understand it now. But when I was on the baseball team my dad was manager my mom team mom. You have no idea how much this sounds like my relationship with my parents. They are toxic, even evil. Family Troubles-Parents Divorced, Low Grades, Feeling Alone? Your official late-to-the-game guide to K-Pop, Taylor Swift made an appearance at The 1975's concert that has us quaking, TikTok fashion trends you should look out for this winter, 4 things your period *definitely* won't stop you from doing, 4 ways to feel better when you have a cold, Your guide to creating the ultimate long-distance relationship playlist, How to tell if you're crushing on your girl BFF, The perfect to-go cups to keep your drink warm, WIN! Your father is insecure as he is threatened by your independence. now i have reason to believe that my parents are horrible. They're only happy with me unless I did something exactly to their expectations. And all through that time, my parents and other family members tied to Grandma all thought I was taking advantage of her. Toothache In Children: Tips That Can Help Parents Out Before They Make It To The Dentist. Disassociate yourself from this family & find people who respect/love you for what you are. Her parents were lazy, uneducated, and short-sighted. Went to Mazatlan every summer for about 1 month at least everyone of those 18 yrs. Money isn't common for me. So if a young one dares to have a unique, creative, and innovative thought or idea, it is squashed and often labeled as outlandish and weird because nobody else thought of it! They will always choose the path of the least resistance all through life. i felt i wasn't loved and when i said that i was beaten for it. Demeaning and comparison by parents is so much that most of the kids starts doing what others are doing rather then choosing their own profession. Question: After not being able to date and having your critical narcissistic mother and kind/go-along father force your career, marrying a violent man, would you say my problems stem from low self-esteem? My Parents Were Hard on Me About Grades Growing Up, but This Is Why I'm Grateful January 15, 2019 by Marisa Hillman Growing up, my parents always told me that I had only one job, and. A PROFESSIONAL Voice Actor will reco. This is so refreshing to know that there are people out there with similar experiences - When my parents lash on me talk me down , have me stand with my brother if he did wrong , you know the past days has been terrible for me , i have been searching the internet and seeing that i was abused all of my life from sleeping on the bare floor to being whipped with wires and canes naked to punching me in the face and i must just stand there and not cry or say a thing because my father used to say when i beat you ! We are right back to where we started. Meantime, I performed exceptionally at primary school, but my mother said it was only because I had dumb kids in my year. anything I did wrong, i was ordered to strip naked and get beaten by the belt. My whole family hurt my self-esteem by using me as a work-horse. Obsessing over a child's grades and making that the determining factor for your happiness as a parent is a bad decision. Of course in the darkest moments, you think of hurting others. This led to stunted emotional development and made it hard to have a normal level of self-esteem. But, now I am older and see the world different. Please seek psychological help. Title says it all.. My parents only care about my grades. Real Example: We got our grades of the Chemistry exam today, i read the question wrong, i read Beta Particles instead of Alpha Particles, but i answered the question right if it was talking about Beta Particles so basically i answered it right, in a way. Such as overspending? Part of the gym is a mental component, I don't think I'd be able to do this any other way. My mom is not as bad as my dad. I used to have suicide thoughts when I was little but I give up on that because of the internet that make me have a lot of online friends that supported me .I feel stupid sometimes because when I have negative thoughts there goes the positive pop out of no where .,. They do not view their kids as thinking, independent, autonomous individuals in their own right but instead as automatons and pieces of property that they can dictate and program at will. Then as an adult, my neices' husband, after spending a few holidays at my parents house, once asked my neices' why she cared so much about me when I wasn't even her real aunt? Not just kids but teachers and teacher assistants too. Focus on building your child up and preaching positivity. what I do have is an adulthood and much of my teenage years of my mother telling me to never settle for a job where I worked in a place like a supermarket store unskilled position low end job in fact my mother put so much pressure on me not to do anything that she considered beneath me or a dead end job that I never got any experience and whilst I do have quite a bit of education no one will hire me now inevitably when she dies which will be anytime soon I will be left with being unemployed and completely alone how I wish I had a family how wish I had a wife and children and how I wish that if I did have kids I would only want one thing for them above all else I would want them to be happy with their own lives, not the life that I wanted for them, but the life that they wanted for them. Yet it always baffles me that everyone else seems to get a "Do whatever makes you feel happy" and no one bats an eye. They are of the belief that there is safety in following the prevailing and/or majority opinion. Find other relatives who love & care for you. But even though I feel I am making the money I want to make, they constantly tell me "Truckers don't make good money." An hour is a pretty short time. I know school can be difficult and you will mess up quite a few times. My goodness. i know i do things wrong.but my self esteem is destroyes. What NOT to do if you are the parent of a college student. (I am seventy-four.). Preach a positive mental approach to dealing with failures and mistakes. He must have picked up on the feeling that I didn't belong. There is an old saying that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. They plan their children's lives from birth to marriage to career and beyond. Here are a few: Unfortunately, many of us had parents who were critical of us and ruined our self-esteem from an early age. Obsessed With Fandoms on August 27, 2018: Well this explains a lot. This has ruined a career, now I have to retrain for something else. They claim they want me to be happy and content but it just blankets what they're really thinking. Most parents, unfortunately, have this mindset. But I don't really know what to do now Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 19, 2018: Please seek counselling I implore you. But them telling me that everyday is enough to ruin my day. Sleep Deprivation, Behavior, And Academic Performance, I Caught my Child Smoking Marijuana (Pot) Again, Caring For Elderly Parents At Home: How To Cope. Until my spirit was broken, I had a few good kicks as a kid. Your father is abusive & his behavior is inexcusable. I've seen a few therapist and a psychologist by my own free will trying to get better. Again, parents need to check their egos and loosen up a bit. Question: Why does my father point out all my flaws? 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